What is your coming out story? How has beening openly gay changed your life?
Back in 8th grade I knew I was gay. I thought to myself %26quot;If I can just keep this a secret I can live a %26#039;normal%26#039; life.%26quot; I had a bunch of really close friends, and some just a little above acquaintances ... one of which had the name of Mike.
One night on my computer, I was extremely depressed and I just wanted to tell someone already. All of a sudden I get an I.M. from a guy saying that he got my screen name from his friend when he wasn%26#039;t looking. We began discussion and then he flat out asked me if I was gay. I panicked and said no, but then he asked a few more times and I said %26quot;Yes.%26quot; I couldn%26#039;t even restate it ... couldn%26#039;t bring myself to say the words.
A few days pass by and me and this kid really seem to get to know each other via internet. He seems pretty cool and I enjoyed being out to someone so we continued talking. A week passes by and he explains to me that he has a secret. Im thinking OK whatever. Then he tells me %26quot;Remember when I said we never met before?%26quot; And I said %26quot;Yea????%26quot; And he said %26quot;Well i sorta know you%26quot; and I start flippin out in my head thinking %26#039;thats it my life is over%26#039; and all sorts of things. Then he continues to explain that he is none other than my somewhat friend Mike! Naturally, I asked him if he was gay because after all, he was continuing the conversation ... but he replied with no and that he just wanted to know if I was and to show that he didn%26#039;t mind. I soon realized the dilemma I was in and decided to move quick ... so I came out to all of my friends the next day and explained what had happened. Luckily, I was with the %26quot;In crowd%26quot; in school and people who knew me loved me so they didn%26#039;t care about my sexuality. A day or so later my %26quot;friend%26quot; Mike started telling EVERYONE around school about my sexuality and almost everyone replied back with %26quot;Why do you care? And if you talk $#!t about my friend again Ill kick your ***.%26quot; So I felt pretty safe. Anyways we obviously stopped talking and I didn%26#039;t really like him anymore, considering he%26#039;s a prick.
A year later I hear from some people that were friends with him that he just came out and that he%26#039;s gay. Biggest hypocrite I%26#039;ve ever met. He tried getting with me but I told him straight up buddy Im way outta your league. And it was totally true. So HA!
What is your coming out story? How has beening openly gay changed your life?
My mom found out I was looking at gay porn on the computer.. then I tried to kill myself.. I%26#039;m better now though
Eh...... that%26#039;s my coming out story :/
Maybe it%26#039;s different for me because I%26#039;m not gay. However, I%26#039;m bisexualandd I came out to some of my friends and for some it actually openned up our friendship while others just didn%26#039;t care. Even though it%26#039;s cool now. I can express myself the way I want to. I like girls still and I am still able to really just like whoemever I want to like. I am happy I came out, but I%26#039;m never going to come out to my parents. I%26#039;m happy with the people I%26#039;ve told and the people I haven%26#039;t told.
I lost a few %26quot;friends%26quot; when I came out. but then again if they don%26#039;t accept you for who you are they aren%26#039;t really friends.
i told my dad i liked girls and he said me to=)
im comfortable with who i am now.
Me and my family had a huge fight and then i was yelling at my dad and it just slipped out...my whole family went bananas when i said %26quot;Dad I%26#039;m Bisexual so just get over it already!!%26quot; I got grounded, but hey...it was worth it...my dad actually says i%26#039;m 15 so i dont know what i really want...i was like yea dad i do know what i want...and then i got grounded again...but hey thats life lol
I%26#039;m not going to pretend like I%26#039;m completely in support of the idea. If you think that you%26#039;ll be safe and that things won%26#039;t change too much for the worse, go ahead. Otherwise, I%26#039;d not do it.
I started feeling gayish probably around the time I was 11. My, %26quot;Oh my God, what the f*ck is all this?%26quot; stage lasted a couple of years, probably until I turned 13 or thereabout. At that time, I allowed myself to acknowledge my feelings for males by saying that I was, if not straight, at the most, tragically bisexual.
Time inched by, and as I started reading gay romance stories written by amateur authors on FictionPress.com, I realized that I really only felt anything sexual for boys, and that I had only really ever accomplished close friendship with girls.
Inspired by the idiocy I read, I decided to come out to my parents. At first they didn%26#039;t really get it, although they said they did. It took quite a while for my dad and I to get comfortable enough to acknowledge it in my father%26#039;s presence; he used to make jokes and references to attractive girls, and I%26#039;d just stare blankly at him and he%26#039;d remember. But finally everything turned out fine at home.
At school I%26#039;ve only told a few people, just close friends and a boy who I like who doesn%26#039;t love me back (naturally). I suppose it%26#039;s given me something to talk about every now and then, but on the whole I think I regret coming out to people. Unstable, unsure teenagers don%26#039;t like to be confronted with the possibility of being gay.
Luckily, I%26#039;ve been intelligent enough only to tell people I knew I could trust, and that even if they told people, they%26#039;d only tell others who wouldn%26#039;t mind.
Still, I don%26#039;t think I%26#039;ve achieved much. I don%26#039;t feel liberated, I don%26#039;t feel closer to people, I don%26#039;t feel happier. And I think it%26#039;s silly to expect any of those things from coming out, because the whole process and the results of that are far too overrated, at least in high school.
I came out to myself at 22 years old. i lived my whole life in denial. a also had problems in my childhood. anyway in high school i wound up going to a special education school(which had a padded room). anyway i think it was obvious to a lot of people because nobody was a bit surprised. actually people respect me now. as far as friends, i didn%26#039;t have that many to lose.
when i came out at first i wanted to keep it t myself. but it turned out i was constantly on edge because society had managed to shame me when i was in denial.
so i came out, myspace facebook with photo on profile. and so far it%26#039;s been posotive for me. I now walk around peacefully.
personally i think a gay guy who is forward and honest has more friends and more respect than one who is in total denial about himself.
i%26#039;ve even had a female friend that i met after coming out. she told me that if i lied to her and said i was straight when i was really gay she wouldn%26#039;t even have spoken to me. she is really cool and she likes to keep things real.
now it%26#039;s still a challenge when your living in a straight world especially when the dating pool is only 5%. some gays still hit on straights, personally i don%26#039;t even think about sex with a normal straight person because that%26#039;s bad for business and only freaks people out. i still love tto check out upper bodies though.
some people hate being gay. they say it%26#039;s too hard. I love being gay and wouldn%26#039;t trade it for a million dollars. nothing worthwhile is easy.
