How can you overcome all of the obstacles--both internal and external to yourself--that prevent you from making good changes in your life TODAY? And why does it seem so hard to get from Point A to Point B even when you can see Point B clearly and you know what to do to get to it?
How do you change your life?
Anne M;
Great question. Life can be rough and getting lost is easy. There are a couple of pointers, but the answer below may be difficult to hear...
One of the first steps is to understand that most people have a %26quot;victim%26quot; mindset. Although many would %26quot;like%26quot; to take charge of their lives, they quickly fall into allowing things to happen, which they feel they cannot influence or change. These influences can take the form of either internal or external forces--but neither really %26quot;prevent%26quot; you from making choices.
The greatest challenge is being able to live with good choices: many %26quot;want%26quot; their lives to be better, but are not willing to live with the responsibility of taking action (see victim mindset above) Want a better boyfriend, dump the one you currently have and find a better one; don't like you current job, quit and get a better one; can't find a job because you didn't finish high school, get your GED; and the list continues...
One of the easiest (but most challenging) changes is to surround yourself with people of similar interests or goals. If you are interested in becoming a medical doctor, you would meet and hangout with people who wish to be doctors. I know this sounds like an obvious truth, but those who do not share your goals or dream won't understand the choices you must make and certainly won't understand the sacrifices required to reach those goals...
There are some constants in life which many will try to persuade you away from: education, financial stability, stable home life: with in turn opens up opportunites for better education, better job, etc. and the cycle continues upwards...
Hope this helps.
How do you change your life?
You keep fighting and trying and don't give up and no matter if you fall you get back up set backs are what they are they are set backs not failures and its always hard to see yourself any different to how you are right now but you have to imagine what it would be like when your life has changed for the better and you can look back on this as a test that you passed and made it to be who you are.
The biggest changes in your life are not made all at once but one minute at a time. So start implementing what you already know you have to do and review how far you have come a year from now when you can see the changes.
Sometimes the best way is not the straightest path, diverge from it and meet different peeople, stop at places along the way and meet with people, that you may have not met. It's these experiences that lead us into new directions and alter our course. Live your life sponteneous and react to new situations, but also don't become self-destructive. You may find later that you could care less about getting to Point B!
I'll give you some advice that will always help you in any situation. Ask God for His guidance. If you live your life accordingly to His Word, you will be successful in anything you do.
I'm thinkin' about the best thing I could tell you now is that in order to drastically change your life, you need to change your paradigm. Pretty much everyone follows a basic paradigm in life, whether they know it or not. A paradigm is a way of thinking, like a mentality. Like some business' would rather sell 1 for 10, and some would rather sell 10 for 1. Some people live by loyalty, some by greed. 99 percent of human motivation can be traced back to acquiring a gain, or preventing a loss. In other words, if what you're doing isn't getting you where you want to be, then change what you're doing to get you where you need to go.
you work on it.
you get out of bed and you make each moment count.
and when you feel yourself slipping backwards you take a deep breath and push past the road block.
Don't get addicted to anything that could ruin your life. You already seem to understand what's good for you and what's not.
Use Will Power!
My Dad smoked for 40 years and quit cold turkey!
It took about 2 years and thousands of sticks of chewing gum for him to finely stop craving cigarettes.
